When we lose a pillar of our family, the natural instinct is to retreat into the past. For my mother, who recently lost her husband of 47 years, "Memory Lane" is currently her only safe camp. She is hunkered down there, sifting through decades of stories to make sense of her new silence. This is a totally natural and necessary part of the healing process. But for me, walking that same lane is a different journey. Learning the art of Tactical Disassociation. I spent the last w